But, bullies are not. In fact, the truth of the matter is quite the opposite.
Have you ever heard the slogan; when the going gets tough, the tough get going?
Yeah, well, bullies get going - right out the back door!
Sure, they can be intimidating. Intimidation is one of the most important weapons in their arsenal. However, when confronted by a situation that requires real courage, true sacrifice, and genuine tenacity, they fail.
Miserably.
Terribly.
Always.
That's why it's important to stand up to them. They are creatures that feed on fear. The more they perceive, the greater the sense of false courage they feel. It gives them license to be abusive. Therefore, you must always confront a bully; quickly and decisively.
I know that this is not always easy. Bullies often posses a physical make-up that gives them an appearance of strength. No one wants a potential beatdown! And, whereas as truly tough individual would use that as a positive attribute, i.e. protect the innocent, the bully uses ANY perceived superiority, particularly a physical one, to their best advantage.
They bluster.
They rage.
They threaten.
It's all about them and getting what they want, when they want it.
Unfortunately, these tactics can be effective. It's the reason WHY they use them - over and over again.
Therefore, it's SO important to confront a bully!
I'm no psychologist, but I do believe I have a good understanding of human nature. And, I believe that bullying behavior is a defense mechanism employed to hide deeply rooted insecurities. It almost seems to be inversely proportional: the deeper the sense of their own lack of value, the more the need to devalue others.
Look. I am not a physically imposing person. So, in that sense, I'm not that tough. As a kid, I was on the short end of virtually every confrontation I ever had. And, I had lots of them - because, at some point, I just wasn't taking ANY shit from anyone, particularly a bully.
Sure, I took some lumps - lots of them! And, like everyone I guess, I'd rather avoid getting the shit kicked out of me on a regular basis by some over-muscled troglodyte. However, from my experience I came to realize that if one doesn't step up to a bully at some point, the behavior will continue and you will be eternally shat upon. So, to my way of thinking, you might as well confront them sooner rather than later. Because, believe me, by their very nature, if a bully knows that you will ALWAYS fight back - no matter the consequence - they will stop. A bully's entire Raison d'etre is to take the path of least resistance. They are not interested in hard fought victories - only ones cheaply gained.
Well, not on my dime.
This post is not about one person. It's about a behavior - not politics. However, I can't help but think about the word bully without a image of former President Donald J. Trump firmly planted in my mind's eye. Forgive me for the hackneyed joke but, if you look up bully in the dictionary you will see a photo of him next to the definition.
Mr. Trump possess all the necessary traits of a classic bully: he's a large man, about 6'2" (6'5" with his hair) and over 270 lbs. He's loud and uses that volume to drown out the voices of others - literally. He has fame which he leverages to ultimately to his own advantage. If he perceives a weakness in ANYONE, rather than offer help he attacks without mercy. He doesn't want to just defeat you. He wants to destroy you.
Some, i.e. his followers, for some strange reason, interpret this behavior as strong or tough. It is neither. This is simply the Cult of Personality: he sells them an image and they are insecure enough in themselves to buy it.
He continues to sell his BIG LIE, i.e. the 2020 election was stolen from him, simply because in typical bully fashion, he cannot acknowledge THE FACT that he lost.
Typical.
That's not tough.
It's pathetic.
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