Today's MOZEN: Consider Adoption

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Recently, there has been a spate of serious miscues regarding couples wishing to have their biological children through In vitro fertilization (IVF) and the California clinic where they went for the procedure. One example had the wrong embryos apparently being implanted into a surrogate causing twin Caucasian boys being born to an Asian-American couple who had planned on having twin girls of the same ethnicity.

Obviously, this is outrageous and unacceptable.

However, for me, there is an underlying message that I believe is worthy of discussion.

My post is NOT meant to deny to others what may be of the utmost importance in their personal lives, but to examine the premise that when you challenge nature, there are consequences. 

What has happened recently to this, and other couples, may be extreme example but there are other, less, outrageous ramifications, as well. The most common of these is multiple births of twins, triplets, etc.

Of course, this does not mean the parents will love these children any less. However, in the bigger picture, is this truly the right thing to do?

Please hear me out and consider this:

There are 107,918 foster children eligible for and waiting to be adopted. In 2014, 50,644 foster kids were adopted — a number that has stayed roughly consistent for the past five years. The average age of a waiting child is 7.7 years old and 29% of them will spend at least three years in foster care*.

I know that we are constantly using science to improve so many things in our life from medicine to transportation to climate. We are given these big brains to use to advance everything around us. However, I would also ask you to consider that we live within nature itself. Life has its own cycle from birth to death. And, there are certainly things that we ultimately have no control over - like death. No one gets out of here alive. So, we learn, or should learn, to live WITH nature and not always look to improve upon it.

So, it may be here. If it is not your fate to have your own children through the so-called normal process, are we not, in a sense, being instructing to find another way? Perhaps, it is Nature's Way of telling us that we should find fulfillment in our own lives by giving a needy child a good, loving home with parents who will care for them as their own.

Just something to consider.


*These are the statistics provided my Adoption Network